What are addictions?

Dependency means an alteration of behavior that from a simple or common habit becomes an exaggerated and pathological search for pleasure through means or substances or behaviors that lead to the pathological condition. (taken from wikipedia). There may be a dependence on licit and non-licit substances, objects, people. In this article we will talk about dependence on people, therefore affective . They can be involved in this type of friendly relations, children, companions, husbands.

What triggers the addiction?

The main reasons are generally insecurity, fear of abandonment, fear of being alone, feelings of guilt.

What are the symptoms?

In the emotional dependence the individual lives a perennial desire to merge with the other and a morbid attachment, organizes his life in relation to the other, lives a generalized anxiety, depressed /, melancholic, obsessive ideas, lack of appetite or bulimia, anger and panic attacks, he experiences a series of fears. Fear of abandonment, loneliness, separation, illness, accident. He renounces his professional growth, his own interests, because he considers it a necessary sacrifice. Often he is a manipulator, to attract the attention of the person he becomes a hypochondriac. He is obsessed and unable to change. Often these people choose problematic companions who are themselves addicted to substances, gambling, etc.

How to heal?

It is not an easy path in these situations, a support is needed to achieve the acquisition of awareness of one's state. Healing is not detachment from the person or persons but the acquisition of affective autonomy. To love is to give and to receive and it is the most beautiful gift we can have.

Bach flowers. Bach Flowers are an optimal path to rebalance that state of inner malaise that has created addiction, regain our security and autonomy, enjoying the joy of what we have. It is certainly a long journey to be faced together with a flower therapist who will accompany us to recover our well-being and re-establish contact with ourselves. The flowers that can serve in the dependencies are: Walnut, for the change to be addressed.

Larch or safety centaury Red chestnut for detachment from person or thing Cherry plum for the compulsiveness of Chicory attitudes for anxiety and worries and possessiveness towards others and above all to understand that "it is not given to have", but yes gives for the joy of giving.

Wild oat for the centrality of the person, and for finding one's own way. Obviously it is not possible to do it yourself in these important situations, to be supported is very important and also the certain choice of the Flowers must take place after an interview with the flower-therapist, each person has a way to get out of it and a motive that has triggered the "addiction", and very often psychological support is also very useful to get out of it faster.