We often complain because the parents always pose with anxiety and a certain anxiety even when the children grow up and maybe they have already created their own family unit.
The real opportunity, when we encounter something that makes us suffer, that brings us back, that forces us to come to terms with our impatience, the real opportunity is a change of perspective.
Let's see how to change perspective and look at one's mother just like ... a person.
See the mother as a person
Changing perspective means to stop blaming, to point the finger or to offend those who generated us and to start considering the person before the parent.
This allows us to better recognize the modalities through which we have received the love that has been given to us and allows us to decide and establish if we want something different and if we are able not to mechanically reproduce those patterns. But in order not to reproduce them you need to see them . And to see them you need patience, irony, detachment.
The mother should have been able to contribute to the construction of internal operational models in the child or daughter based on trust, presence but also discretion.
In other words, a mother taught how to spread her wings and at the same time knew how to take root . True love can give breath. If we realized that in our childhood and growth we had a rather castrating mother it does not mean having an alibi for not doing a work on oneself.
Indeed, there is an excellent launching pad to unleash that desire to live fully, to love freely, to try to manage selfish or narcissistic affirmations.
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Celebrate mom: 4 ideas to do it together
Here are some ideas to celebrate your mother fully and freely.
1. A film, a book aloud
Celebrating the feminine, intuitive, romantic energy by reading a book aloud or going to the cinema with your mother is something extraordinary. You can also choose together or let her choose, perhaps helping her to remember the title, in case of oblivion.
2. Do meditation together
Have you ever meditated together with your mother ? If you have been practicing meditation or yoga for some time, why not share these arts, these immense resources with the woman who gave you life?
You will discover something surprising and you will be able to make great progress also on the spiritual level. It may also be a good idea to participate in women's circles or practices related to the lunar and female cult.
3. Write and read a letter intended for you
Writing a letter with what you've learned, how much you understand about your relationship with your mother is a revolutionary and sweet act together.
Things you would have wanted to say in a certain situation, how much you want to convey them in the present, what are your intentions and the vision of your life together now, that life that it was you who gave you.
4. Stay in the water together
Mum kept us in her belly for 9 months and this allowed us to develop a total connection with her and to be in a warm, nutritious, fluid environment.
Water takes us into this dimension and on the day of the feast to the mother you might think of celebrating in a place where the fluid energy of water reigns. The spa is an excellent idea to relax, purify and talk calmly .
