In this period some mothers contact me because their child will start the kindergarten or the school and they are worried about how their child will react to this new event and to the separation from the mother . Hence the idea of ​​this article that aims to be a support for mothers.

In reality, the anxiety more than the child generally has of the mother, who for the first time detaches herself from her child, not because of her working needs, but for an autonomous growth path.

And it is just like that, the child in kindergarten is followed by the teachers, who initially are perfect strangers for him, must learn to know them and they will become his point of reference, at the same time he discovers that it is a new environment (therefore a little there is an initial hesitancy), where he meets new peers, can play in larger spaces, run, draw, get dirty and where he learns many new things, but the children are fantastic in facing new situations.

Here the mother comes into play, in the sense that if the mother is serene the child will surely be, precisely because the child perceives the agitation of the parents and the worry, consequently this new path scares him when his parents are so frightened in turn.

What are the things to avoid in order not to create agitation in the child?

• Avoid talking about your concerns in the presence of the child.
• Avoid criticism of new companions or teachers.
• Over-emphasize the new context.
• Avoid asking for affective confirmation despite the posting.

How to live peacefully this new path?

For the child it is a new opportunity for socialization, transforming the beginning of the kindergarten into a joyful adventure, participating emotionally, and through dialogue.

What to do when you are faced with posting problems?

When the child has difficulty in facing the new adventure, our Bach Flowers come to meet us. When the child is anxious and crying we can use Mimulus and Walnut which will make him face his fears and change the new path with serenity. Larch, for safety. If the child is constantly looking for the parents' attention, we can give Heather.

If instead it is the mother to have a discomfort in detaching herself from her child and then I recommend Chicory. For a mother who is very tired and with difficulty detaching, I recommend Chicory and Olive. Olive is truly an exceptional flower that restores physical and mental state with truly surprising results, and given that parents must divide their work between the house and the new adventure of the child and the various daily problems I would recommend just as a support right now Olive and Wild Oat. If, on the other hand, more important problems arise, it is best to seek advice from a therapist who will choose the most suitable flowers. Good adventure, mothers and children of the heart .