Bach flowers for solitude are indicated to rebalance different ways of perceiving it and to help us shed light on how often the responsibility for this condition is to be found in ourselves.
Many, like Hermann Hesse, desire it, while others experience it as an unpleasant condition, which can wear down the quality of life or trigger the sense of abandonment and alienation that characterize the most frequent discomforts in contemporary society.
This human condition, in fact, puts you in touch with the deeper and darker side of our soul: the sensations are sharpened and you must come to terms with your own unstoppable flow of thoughts and with your own demons.
Treating solitude with Bach flowers
"Everyone is only in the middle of the evening, pierced by a ray of sunshine. And it is now evening " . (Salvatore Quasimodo)
In the course of life, each one of us experiences solitude, and when we compare our personal experience with that of others it becomes evident that there is not a single one; and although it offers man innumerable opportunities to mature and become an autonomous subject, he is often a repository of negative values .
The Bach flowers for solitude support the individual to overcome the consequences of an unwanted condition and therefore that causes suffering. Their assumption makes it possible to bring out the causes and resolve them through a change of perspective; it helps to find strength in ourselves, to bring back the joy of living with and with others, while maintaining our individuality.
Bach identified three very different ways of feeling lonely, to which he associated as many flower remedies, suitable for harmonizing this state of mind and changing the feeling of loneliness in love.
Bach flower Heather
Heather : the remedy for loneliness due to excessive egocentrism. Erica grows on the arid plains, on desolate lands, on calcareous soils and poor in mineral salts.
It thrives therefore in a difficult habitat, where few plants can take root, thus living solitary . And it is the "lesson" offered by Heather to acquire emotional independence and to develop the ability to live even in solitude! Those who need this remedy continuously absorb the energy of others, because they are hungry for affection .
He feels the irresistible need to let off steam and to talk about his illnesses or worries with long monopolizing speeches, without considering the needs of others, because he is too busy with his own, not realizing that with this attitude he will have the opposite effect.
Heather feels lonely, unloved, abandoned, she is afraid to stay that way forever, so she uses others to fill this void and calm her anxiety.
However, he is so talkative, a victim and self-centered that others will eventually abandon him. Heather helps to achieve emotional independence by learning to love and respect others . It helps overcome the fear of being alone and helps control impulses, because it promotes the ability to listen and understand others.
Bach Impatiens flower
Impatiens: the remedy for loneliness due to impatience . Balsamina must be in constant motion because it is a plant of rapid and impetuous growth, so much so that in the summer it has buds, flowers and seeds at the same time. At the slightest solicitation, he expels the seeds violently, even when they are not mature.
The subject as the plant is impatient: he wants everything and immediately. Often smarter than average, he ends up making scorched earth around him, because he is unable to control his impulses and needs to move and do. It has an accelerated internal rhythm, thinks, speaks, eats, dresses and drives quickly.
He runs through life and lives others with impatience because they are perceived as slow and inadequate. Restless, hyperactive, irritable, impulsive and nervous, he often finds himself alone . Refractory for routine work, it does not fit well into groups, because it does not accept the rules.
It does alone, does not trust, does not tolerate delays, setbacks, hesitations, second thoughts, files. He can never relax, which is why he suffers from muscular, mental and emotional tension. Impatiens allows you to slow down the pace of the days and teaches you to live with others and with their times.
It helps to accept the natural flow of life, to be carried away by the slow passage of time. Taking the remedy the spasmodic tension calms down and puts you in others' shoes; one relaxes, one becomes more diplomatic, less impulsive and less alone. You gain in spontaneity and accept the rhythm of others.
Bach Water Violet flower
Water Violet : the remedy for loneliness due to voluntary isolation. The water violet is the only one among the plants of the primrose family that is aquatic and does not need direct sun to develop.
It can be found among stagnant waters or slow-moving waterways in ditches and marshes, and this feature makes it unapproachable, difficult to collect, so much so that even animals are discouraged from eating it. It grows between 25-50 cm below the water level, and its roots are so strong that it is difficult for the current to drag it away.
The leaves remain completely below the surface of the water, while the stem and flowers emerge, giving the impression of haughtiness . Water Violet is Bach's remedy for those who voluntarily isolate themselves, because they appreciate solitude and tranquility . He has no great need for relationships with others and therefore treats them with gentle but firm detachment .
In general, this state of mind is typical of subjects that are not only very reserved, but also wise, refined and balanced, so much so that they are often sought after by others for these characteristics. Although not immediately perceived as problematic, the sense of loneliness, in the long run, makes its appearance, becoming a source of suffering .
They do not ask for anything, they speak little, these people prefer to listen rather than open up, because they are afraid of not being understood, so they bear their sorrows in silence, hiding behind an apparent self-sufficiency a loneliness and a sadness that can become desperate.
Water Violet teaches us that we can maintain our individuality even if we interact with others and live the group, this is the highest degree of individuality, that is being able to live in the community without losing one's essence, which remains in a state of harmony.
The nature of solitude
Loneliness is a condition that characterizes our times and in which the individual isolates himself (if lonely) or is isolated from other human beings. Social animal by definition, man can find himself only because of different character factors such as shyness or apathy ; but at other times it is a conscious choice .
Loneliness in fact presents many facets: there are forced ones, generally imposed by the circumstances of life, such as imprisonment, handicaps and illness, perceptive isolation or the abandonment of a loved one. Then there are the desired solitudes like those sought by the artist, the scholar, the ascetic or those who, in everyday life, feel the need to carve out a moment of his own, to recover the dispersed energies or to escape from situations that he cannot manage.
It is universally recognized as the main cause of depression favored by poorly managed urbanization: it is not by chance that the most valuable houses are located in or near areas of social aggregation.