Here are some very important tips for living the couple's relationship well, from meditation to walking to the chance to sing together and avoid wasting energy unnecessarily.
1. Deal with the "here and now"
Don't hit, explain. Don't attack, show . Don't take offense but don't hold your anger. It seems a very complex balance, but the search for this behavioral tendency prevents us from pouring everything on the partner.
Being in the present avoids seeing in the other the parent to be paid or the ex with whom to make useless comparisons or the scapegoat on which to throw every frustration. Instead, it is necessary to deal with the baggage of experience and the other but be willing to know it moment by moment.
2. Do not waste energy
To be among the usual friends, to go for aperitifs and to eat junk food, to accept one invitation after another, to spend evenings in front of the television: these are the main ways to get away.
It is good to decide from time to time together how much to expose oneself to the social dimension, which invitations to accept, based on the intuitions and feelings of both members of the couple.
Every night you spend outside in the din could be a lost evening to communicate together in an open and loyal way and give life to a constructive relationship.
3. Make music or draw together
Creative activities are not pre-season for those who have time. We don't have time, time lives in it . Evenings spent together can become creative forges of incredible power and can be opportunities to discover incredible inner resources and perhaps give life to two projects of an artistic type in which then involve others.
It has also been shown that putting the house in order condenses the harmony, so, after having creatively designed or worked, you put order together . Increasing the energy that revolves around the couple. Make even small creative surprises with the other: songs, collages, post it with doodles left here and there.
4. Move together
Sports that also seem very individualistic, such as swimming, can actually become useful resources for compacting the relationship. Take a break between sets of tubs, take a breath together, find yourself after the shower. Then rest together. The same goes for skiing, tennis or collective yoga or tai chi chuan courses.
Pilates is also good: you have fun moving from one exercise to another, you smile at changing gear, you struggle together to strengthen the abdominal center.
Very well also decide to follow a path together between body and mind like bioenergetics. A tango or flamenco course is also excellent for developing a sense of rhythm and harmony.
5. Do meditation together
In nature, in a room, standing, cross-legged, as you wish, but you don't find cuse and dedicate yourself to some time for yourself, to stay inside yourself and reopen your eyes and find yourself at your side.
Meditation has extraordinary benefits: it purifies the mind, brings presence, balances, puts you in touch with the breath. You can also decide to start a tantra or neo tantra path together.
